There are three types of friendship. These include friendship of virtue, friendship of mutual interest and friendship of usefulness. Whatever types of friend you have, it is still imperative for you to be a good friend.
So, what makes a friend a good friend? It is important that you don’t just know the qualities of a good friend. You must also know how to act and be like one. If you are a good friend, you will rejoice in your friend’s joys and will sorrow over his pains. A good friend is not only sympathetic, he is also empathetic. You will share his feelings, weeping with him when he weeps and rejoice with him when he rejoices. A good friend won’t unfriend his friend is he disagrees. Friendships should be tested whenever there are some disagreements. Yet, if you are a good friend you will never cut your friends off for that reason. You will tell them what you think they need to hear and the other way around. However, you must do it in a way you know they can accept it. You may do this if you really love them unconditionally more than you care for your views.
What is a good friend?
A good friend will always keep in touch with you regularly. You can contact your friends from time to time and you can expect that they will do the same to you. Friends like these are regarded as good friends. So, if you consider yourself as a good friend, you must communicate with your friends fairly regularly. Trust is a very important element of friendship. Knowing that you can trust your friend and that your friend trusts you are indeed a joyful thing.
A good friend can be trusted implicitly. You must earn the trust of your friend and yours to them. Consequently, you need not to doubt that they will have your back. This will also eliminate the fear of your friends stabbing in your back. If you trust your friends enough you won’t hesitate to reveal them about your highly confidential and private matters.
A good friend should defend and stand by your side should bad times take place. This is probably the topmost measure of friendship. Being a good friend, you will feel what your friend is feeling. It is like “hurting my friend, means hurting me”. It should not come out as, “well, you don’t do anything to me, so it is not my issue”. If you give care to your friend, you will stand by him during such tough battles. Instead of further worsening the situation, you may at least calm her by giving her positive outlooks. Making the situation worse by fighting the same person who has hurt your friend will never be a good idea. This only means that a good friend does not promote convoluted situations, but rather make things right in the proper way he knows how to.
What is a bad friend?
Of course, if there is a good friend, expect that there is always the bad. That is why you have to be very careful when choosing or staying with your supposed “friends”. Finding out the difference between a good and bad friendship is not as simple as it might look.
On the other hand, there are a number of ways you could tell a friendship is not good.
There are times when you will find it hard to think about the things you will do with your “not really” good friends, and ending it can sometimes be your only choice.
Getting some assistance should you need some is truly an important part of guaranteeing that you are surrounded by true people.
Sometimes, a friendship might confuse you - you won’t be sure who among them are really loyal, genuine and supportive. Hence, you must know how to spot those bad friends. You certainly want to be wary about those opportunists.
An opportunist is the person who only likes to be with you because he wants to use you for your assets, such as your car, home or apartment. Or perhaps, he might be using you in order to become close to your well-off friends or sibling.
This kind of person might consume your home or house and maybe even utilize your private hygiene products. Yet, when you confront him, he becomes angry at you. This only shows his disrespect to you and your belongings. Being wary about this kind of person must be observed.
Another trait of a bad friend is being self-centered. This kind of person is living by the tune “it is completely about me”. These people always talk of themselves.
They won’t also give care about you, being uninterested of what you do in a day, the way you feel and more. You might also observe of them always taking big. Whether it is about themselves, boyfriend/girlfriend, materialistic possessions, a vacation, or getting married, this type of people always find the thing that will make them look better than you. Friends with this kind of attitude could be hard to trust and keep.
On the other hand, having a friend who always seems to pity on himself is also not a good trait of a friend. This is the type of person who will always come to you whenever he is facing a problem and seeking for some advice. They will let you know about the difficulties they are going through letting you feel pity for them. But then, if you are the one who needs help from them, they will fall short on you. It won’t be fair if you do not mind spending 2 hours just to give them composure, yet it is like they find it hard to give their five minutes to you. You are not their therapist, so you should avoid letting them broadcast their moans on your expense.
Spotting bad friends is just so easy, yet only if you are sensitive enough to feel what they are up to. Trusting these days is not that easy, so you should be careful to whom you will offer it.
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